Mind your own business.

20 May 2020

This week has been crazy. 

Is it a full moon?

Or are people just tired of being nice and releasing any and all anger upon whomever is in the way??

Sheesh. 

As if life is not difficult enough. 

Me = Working from home, Two year old Tasmanian devil, packing, beagle, attempting to fix minor issues to sell house, son graduating in June (fingers crossed it isn’t cancelled), husband still deployed, bamboo invasion, beagle escape, 48 loads of laundry, trying to improve credit, no family support, lack of sleep, self-care declining. = I am ok though. I got this. Everything will be fine. 

Then— This morning happened....

A loud banging on my front door. 

I rushed to the door ...

Two officers with the initials M.A.C. Embossed across  their chests. 

Fanfuckingtabulous. 

M.A.C. = McKamey Animal Center— basically the pound for people not ‘round these parts. 

I answer the door. 

Apparently— Mr. Officer (have not idea what his name was) was informed about my big fierce and ferocious beagle is sporadically “at large”. (Yes, I am aware. She’s a damn beagle. She’s the smartest dumbass I know. 

If I put her in the back yard which is very large— she climbs the fence and escapes. 

If I attach her to the runner in the front yard she finagles her collar and escapes. She has eaten 2 harnesses. The bark collar makes her bark more. ) 

He proceeded to advise me that my animal must be contained at ALL times — no exceptions. 

Ok, dude. Gotcha. 

He issued me a FORMAL Warning. 

Fair enough. — I get it, he’s doing his job.  No worries. 

What pisses me off is the fact that ONE of my neighbors decided to call M.A.C. 

Instead of letting me know, sending me a message, coming over to talk to me about it ..... or whatnot. 

What a bunch of asshats. 

I took it upon myself to post a message on my neighborhood next-door page— To relieve. A tad bit of frustration. 

(What I posted is below) 

Hello- 

I hope everyone is well, free from the coronavirus and enjoying this beautiful weather.

 I am always friendly, I help my fellow neighbors, I stay positive and I enjoy the majority of our neighborhood and the atmosphere encompassed within. Though, there are a few neighbors that apparently do not not agree with me. 

*This is the only time I will post something negative to you all ( you know who you are)*

Generating nonsense and drama is uncalled for, Unwarranted and frankly— extremely rude. 

I am working from home, I have a 2 year old, a beagle, a senior in high school, a husband deployed and everything else in between. 

Just a quick note to the neighbors that have issues with my home, my dog and /or my yard— 

If you have a negative perception, a foul thing to say or a complaint keep it to yourself or address me personally otherwise keep your opinions to yourself.

1. Sophie:  I received a home visit by McKameys today due to my dog that keeps escaping and complaints they have received.I apologize Sophie ( my dog )She is not a violent dog, nor is she unfriendly. It  may be a nuisance to you all when she escapes the fence, the lead or barks at you when you stroll the neighborhood. She is a beagle. That’s what she does.  If you are willing to install a fence for free to help contain my dog that would be fantastic. Otherwise, I am doing the best that I can under the current circumstances in which all of us are enduring. Whoever called McKameys- As a common courtesy it would have been nice if you addressed it with me directly.  

2. Bamboo: I understand that some of my neighbors have complaints regarding the bamboo growing erratically in my yard. I am diligently cutting it, attempting to kill it and dig it up. I did not plant it. I cannot prevent it from growing. Feel free to assist me if you would like, instead of calling the city and posting complaints. 

During times like this — in the world we live — One would think — Kindness would spread like wildfire not negativity, hatred, gossip and ill-spirited folks. 

We are all human — In case you may have forgotten. 

How about spreading positivity, helping your fellow neighbor or being friendly instead.

What are your thoughts? Am I overreacting?

Im not black nor white — I am me

30 June 2015

I'm not black, I'm not white. I am human.

Written January 19, 2015

I am not black. I am not white. 

I am me. 

In lieu of Martin Luther King, Jr. Day, I have been pondering his infamous speech. 

How would this world be different is he would have survived?

Would we as a nation be friends?

Would we as a nation enjoy helping others?

Would we as a nation live in perfect harmony without racism, discrimination, bullying and hatred?

My simple answer is, No. 

I am not an African American not am I a Mexican American or even an Indian American. 

My ethnicity is considered Caucasian. 

I am considered Caucasian because my skin is lighter than others. 

I have been told being Caucasian reaps many rewards. 

I must have missed that memo. 

I am a "white" middle-aged female. I have been bullied, discriminated against, spat on, turned away and called a plethora of slanderous names such as "trailer trash", "slut", "dumbass", "loser" and "gold digger". 

Were these statements true?

Of course not. 

But the mind is a powerful thing, when a person is repeatedly called such obscene things, they will believe it. 

I was once told, "you hang with dogs, you will get fleas". This statement was a metaphor spoken to me by my mother about childhood friends. 

As I have grown older, I have realized, that not only do we, as citizens of the great United States of America thrive on negativity, hatred and chaos we surround ourselves with it on a daily basis by choice. 

Not one person was born with a hateful persona, not one person was born racist, not one person was born being judgmental. 

All of these behaviors are learned by our surroundings. 

"Can't we all just get along", is a famous quote spoken by Rodney King after a severe beating he received by police officers that are supposed to serve and protect our great nation. 

Can we all just get along? 

The simple answer yet again is, No. 

We, as citizens legal or not of the United States of America cannot get along. 

This has been beaten (so to speak) into our heads from the dawning of our forefathers. 

We have been taught to judge, speak negatively, discriminate and slander those that anger us. 

Why?

Without chaos, there would be euphoria. With euphoria, people would be serene. Serenity would put those that provide protection, freedom and equality out of the job that they currently possess. 

The world thrives on chaos, watch the news for one hour. Then write down all positive things that were observed. 

This great nation of ours saddens me. My children, grandchildren and future generations have hard work ahead of them. 

America is considered "land of the free, home of the brave"

Let's examine this statement. 

Land of the free: 

What in America is free? Education, religious preference, wearing clothing of choice, committing adultery, air, water....

Education is clearly at the top of my list for discussing freedom. 

Yes, we have the right to attend a public school. 

The downside is school uniforms, supplies, lunches, and fees are not free. 

Any child in America can attend a public school as long as the items mentioned above are taken care of. 

 If a child does not have the name brand uniform, school supplies and enough money to eat they will be bullied, called names and frowned upon. God forbid if they have parents that are gay, the child is over weight, under weight, they live in a trailer or buy their clothing from a thrift store. 

Freedom for education is free, but comes with severe consequences to our youth that will be bottled up and released during adulthood or puberty. 

We read and hear of school shootings, suicides of young children due to being bullied and abused children by teachers. 

This amuses our society, we blame the kids, the parents, the school, the administrators ect. This helps us bottle our anger, discrimination and racism until it involves a certain ethnicity, white, black, purple or yellow. It doesn't matter. 

We were taught at a young age to be rebellious, hate those that shun you, defend yourself even if it means punching someone in the face. 

So, no education is not free. 

The choosing of our religion or place of worship should be a place of refuge. But yet again, it is not. 

Yes, we are free to choose a place to worship. As other countries are not as fortunate. 

Yet we are not free to worship aloud or in public places as we may offend others with our beliefs. 

Wasn't this great nation built on God. "In God we trust" is scripted onto what we hold dear to our hearts, our money. 

Imagine entering a church and being looked down upon because you are homeless and the only clothing you have is ratty jeans and a T-shirt smelling of cigarette smoke and day old liquor. 

"Those without sin, cast the first stone". 

Yet, it's a common practice to be judged and looked down upon in church if you look like a bum, say a curse word or refuse to tithe. 

Religion is not free. 

Let's examine the second half of our nations motto: "Home of the brave."

Do I consider us as Americans in the general population to be brave?

My simple answer is, no. 

I'm not speaking of military, police officers or firemen. I am speaking of the general population of America. The "whites", "blacks" "Hispanics" and so on. 

Are we brave?

Think about this statement for a moment. 

Are you being brave by waking up in the morning? Are you brave when you go to work? Are you brave when you go shopping?

No. 

The home of the brave should be categorized to brave individuals such as the white woman teaching English as a second language in "the hood" of A busy metropolis. 

Brave is a person that helps others without any doubt. Paying forward a previous gift given by an unknown person. Braveness is helping a person out of a fire engulfed dwelling or saving a child from drowning by putting yourself in harms way. 

Are we busy Americans as a general population, brave?

No, we are selfish, ego-filled, slanderous, self-righteous hypocrites that want, want, want never taking the time to help others, say thank you or perform any chivalrous action. 

We, as Americans should not be as we have learned to be. 

We do not need to be filled with such anger, greed and selfishness. 

We need to stop stereo-typing what we have been taught as wrong and ask ourselves, why?

I know what it's like to be hungry, broke and helpless. 

I know what it's like to feel as though the end is near. 

I have been stereo-typed, frowned upon and betrayed. 

But, I choose to overcome all stereo types. I will achieve great things without the negativity. I will teach my children to be fishers of men not because I was taught this but because it is right. I will be friends with "the gays", "trailer trash", "whores" and "blacks". 

I will not judge them because I do not know them. I have not walked in their shoes. 

I will help others without expecting something in return. 

I will give to those that need help. 

I will celebrate the life I was given and be proud to be me. 

I am not perfect but it only takes one person to make a difference, it only takes one thought to change the world. 

Blessed be the homeless, blessed be the blacks, blessed be the whites, blessed be the gays, blessed be everyone as we were all someone's baby. 

Those without sin, cast the first stone. 

One day, Martin Luther King, Jr's. Dream will come true and we all shall live in harmony. 

I hope I am alive to see it. 

I will continue to be me. 

What will you do?

Episode 1: Coronavirus Facts

Good morning all, I hope everyone is healthy, happy and calm. If you are not, I hope after reading my blog you will be. Make sure and subscribe for updates and share to everyone you know. (I’m not very good at subtle self-promotion) 

This has been one crazy year, with all the current chaos and issues I wanted to share FACTS from the Center for Disease Control,(CDC) The World Health Organization (WHO) and my local government (State of Tennessee), Occupational Safety and Health Administration (OSHA) and the Environmental Protection Agency (EPA) and the  to help others relieve some anxiety and help others as needed. 

•2020 has started off as a very nerve wracking year, for numerous families, many events have “shaken” our world and scared us, many other issues that we are not aware have occurred and I am here to tell you, It’s been tough, It hasn’t been pleasant and I for one am tired of being afraid, being secluded and uninformed.
With that being said, stress no more as I have completed the research and I have the facts. Take a deep breath and know we are all in this together. 

•As of 28 March 2020-- Many American’s are working from home, or have been laid off, our children are out of school or the daycares have been closed. Our general stress relievers are no longer available, and we are getting cabin fever. Yea, I am happy you are reading this, because I can help.

•Many citizens are panicking --- This is completely normal. Whatever your version or normal is—This is it. Just be patient with yourself and your family. This will end.

•As with any National / Worldwide situation – aka a pandemic chaos and mass hysteria will occur. But it doesn’t have too. A pandemic is defined as a disease epidemic that has spread across a large region, for instance multiple continents or worldwide. 

•Take a deep breath, say a little prayer (or not if you are not a prayer person) and review my list below—Follow them or not, it is purely your choice. 

I am naturally a spazz and I am doing my very best to share with others what is and has been helping me, my family and friends.

If you have any suggestions, add-ons or would like more information to connect to these sites please feel free to comment on this thread and I will respond at my earliest convenience.

The Novel Corona Virus- (COVID19)

The Corona Virus is an infectious disease caused by severe acute respiratory syndrome (SARS-CoV-2) First, identified in Wuhan, China in 2019. This pandemic has been called many names: CoronaVirus, Novel Coronavirus pneumonia, Covid-19, Wuhan virus and SARS-CoV-2. The virus is spreading at remarkable speeds, infecting many daily and has killed many. The only way to stay safe is to know the facts. 

Practice the recommendations and be self-aware. Many individuals have recovered from this illness, so do not be alarmed. But do, take this seriously. 

Per the Center for Disease Control (CDC) updated on 24 March 2020- Ways to protect yourself, the symptoms and preparations we have been given are and have been taken lightly.

 Please understand this is VERY serious

VERY contagious 

With the help of each one of you out there in the world, WE CAN beat this!

The most useful websites that I have located are the sites that keep records of such viruses : For more information click on these links listed above: CDC, WHO, Local government sites such as Tennessee Corona Virus updates (or whichever state you may live in) and the Occupational Safety and Health Agency (OSHA) and the EPA. 

My Top 10 CoronaVirus Stress Prevention Tips:

1. Quit watching the News --- I am a firm believer in media induced panic. Try to reduce your social media intake and quit watching the news. — Side-note: Follow the National / Local and Regional guidelines to prevent the spread of the virus. (See links above and snippets below) — It’s always best to use your best judgement and verify what you hear with the CDC, WHO ect.

2. Per WHO: Follow the 5 steps to prevent future contamination:
           I.  Hands: Wash them often 
           II. Elbow: Cough into it. 
          III. Face: Don’t touch it
           IV.Space: Keep a safe distance 
           V. Home: Stay home if you can.
3. Stay at home—I know this is impossible for some, but here are some helpful ways to stay at home.  (Make sure and check local sites above for precautions if unable to stay home)
•Most restaurants are offering free delivery: Grubhub — this is my favorite.
•Order groceries online and have them delivered to your front door —  Instacart  and Amazon        are   offering free delivery. Instacart offers many different options such as Aldi, Food City, Publix  and even CVS. Amazon (free for prime members) offers only a select grocer in my area. 

4. If you leave your home—Use the WHO 5 precautions. Practice Social Distancing- Maintain at least 3- 6 feet between yourself and anyone else that you do not know. Especially in public places such as the grocery store, gas station, doctors office Ect. Wash your hands. 

5. Wash your hands – FREQUENTLY and use an alcohol-based hand rub after washing. Clean frequently used items:(Cell phones, counter tops, remote controls, handles to cabinets, door knobs, steering wheels, keyboards etc.) often with a proven antimicrobial, antibacterial, antiviral agent: such as alcohol 60% proof or higher, Hydrogen Peroxide, ammonium chloride see ( EPA website for a detailed list above. )  

**I make a very effective and natural spray (like a Lysol spray) and a hand sanitizer with natural ingredients. — Let me know if you are interested in purchasing my personal sanitizer spray, hand sanitizer ect. **

6. Take a Walk and Enjoy Nature. 

7. Pray or Meditate to calm your soul.

8. Find a new hobby.
9. Read a book
10.  Help others in need. 

Thank you for reading, if you have any questions, facts to add or general inquiries please feel free to email me.

Have a blessed day, Hakuna Matata and Carpe Diem

Danaltheseabeewife